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I’d like to start this post with some random, anxious screaming! Ahhh!

I can’t even believe how fast the last few weeks have gone by. I have 9 more lingerie orders to cut, sew and ship before baby arrives. Silk scrunchies and sleep masks are still on the go as usual, and I’ve even been adding a few new colours and prints.

We had a bit of a scare on Sunday – nothing serious but it seemed like the baby was coming much sooner than anticipated. My whole “plan” was to finish work by the end of July, giving me 10 days or so to finish up loose ends around the house. Well, as we all know life doesn’t always go according to plan. I ended up spending the afternoon at the hospital with contractions coming every 3-7 minutes! You can breathe a sigh of relief though. Baby decided to stay put… for now.

That little scare did give me the kick in the butt I needed to finish up a few projects, but now as the week is coming to a close I’m feeling pretty drained. On the bright side, basically everything I need for the baby’s arrival is done. And that really is the most important thing.

This weekend I’m running a sewing pattern sale here and on Etsy. If you’re shopping here, use coupon code Solstice20 to get 20% off your order. If you’re shopping on Etsy, no code is required, everything is already marked down!

I’m also preparing a couple of new patterns and add-ons, including a nursing bra add-on for the Jasmine Bra and some super comfy faux-wrap maternity panties. I say they are maternity” but in reality they will fit any body state. They just have a super low rise front to accomodate a growing bump. As you can see from my photos, ain’t nothing going over this bump.

Well, it’s getting to be that time… I’m gearing down for Maternity Leave! I’m not going away entirely. I will continue offering sleep masks and scrunchies until most likely the end of June. Sewing Pattern sales will remain unchanged. The biggest difference is I will stop regularly taking most orders beginning on May 9th. If I happen to have some time free up, I’ll pick up any last minute orders, but that is my plan so far!

I’ve decided to run one last lingerie sale before I go on leave. Right now, all underwear is 25% off! So it’s a great time to stock up on the most comfy and pretty panties you can find!

When you run your own business, taking a leave can feel pretty stressful… It’s so hard to put your business on hold for any amount of time. But with this being baby number two I’m feeling a little more relaxed. And the fact of life is, people have babies and need time to take care of themselves and those little ones after birth. I definitely feel like I’m going into this one a little more balanced. That being said, I’m already thinking of ways to stay active within my lingerie shop without putting too much work on my shoulders. I’m lucky enough to do something I love and that truly is a passion, so I can’t stay away too long.

On a more personal front, this has been a very exhausting few months for me, so in a way I’m actually looking forward to a bit of time away from work. My dad is finally getting out of the hospital in a little over a week. He’s made huge improvements with physiotherapy. I am so incredibly grateful for the Canadian health care system. Everything has just been taken care of without us having to worry any more than we already were! And the staff at the hospital have just been amazing. As terrible as it is having someone you love be in the hospital for such a long time, having caring, supporting healthcare workers around you makes all of the difference. I’m not sure what I’ll do with all of my time when dad gets out of the hospital… maybe I’ll finally get around to finishing up a few patterns I’ve been working on!

I’ve been really lucky with my last two pregnancies. I haven’t had any major issues come up, but I have found this pregnancy to be just generally uncomfortable and exhausting. I have been slightly anemic which I have found really impacted my energy levels. I’ve never been one to nap, but I found myself passing out on the couch at all hours of the day. My back and hips ache and I’m looking forward to having the baby home and feeling a little more in control of my body again!

I did have one little scare this pregnancy. I’ve been volunteering to read with children, and came into contact with fifth disease. Fifth disease is a pretty common, normally harmless childhood illness, but when you are pregnant there is a slight chance it can harm an unborn baby. Of course this sent my anxiety through the roof. Luckily, it doesn’t look like I ever caught it (though I did have a nasty cold around the time I was exposed), but I’m also not immune to it, so I’ve decided to cut back on the volunteering for the time being. It’s too bad because I really enjoyed it! But my anxiety just can’t handle even the slightest risk right now. I’m too close to the finish line!

I can’t remember where I last left off.

My dad is still in the ICU. He is finally working towards getting the tracheostomy removed and just yesterday regained the ability to speak! He can move a little more and is getting stronger day by day. He still has a long way to go, but has made so many steps forward. A few days ago he apparently told his nurse he’s ready to go home and be a full-time grandpa. And I would like that very much.

I’ve been finding it pretty hard to focus. I try to get into the hospital every day, or at least every other day. It’s tough because I can’t bring Isabel in with me for the time being so I have to find someone to watch her so I can go for a visit. I find that once I get home from the hospital I just feel exhausted. The emotional toll seeing a loved one so sick takes on you is really had to explain.

I’ve been trying to focus my energy on positive things, like preparing for the baby. We found out we are having a GIRL! I am super excited and have already started sorting through Isabel’s old clothes. This last weekend we got the nursery put together which was fun to do. We still need some finishing touches but all the necessities are in place. The room itself is really small and doesn’t have a closet, but we’ve made it work nicely I think! Plus, what does a baby really need in a room anyway? She’ll be in our room for the most part to begin with… I just enjoy an excuse to decorate a room.

One fun project I took on was recovering our old ikea Poang rocking chair cushion as well as my grandma’s old footstool, which I recovered in pink Minky! I have to admit, I suck at home decor sewing, so I did this as simply and quickly as I could. I had a few people asking if I could share a tutorial on how I did the Poang, so I will do that below!

Fair warning, there are no real measurements. I recommend taking your actual Poang chair cushion in the cover and using it as a template.

For my cover, I made a simple envelope style covering. This meant I didn’t need to bother with zippers or buttonholes, but you could just as easily add some buttons or ties to keep it closed. I also did not add any velcro to the back, like you will see on your original Ikea cover. Again, this is simple to add. I was just lazy.

How to make a super simple envelope cover for an Ikea Poang chair

Begin by cutting a piece of fabric that extends beyond the bottom of the cushion by about 8″. This piece gets folded up and hemmed. The rest of the sides should be about 3″ larger than the cushion itself.

Turn the raw edge of the 8″ extension under by about 1″ and stitch in place.

Cut a second piece of fabric out so that it extends beyond the hemmed edge by about 4″. This overlap creates the envelope opening. Turn the raw edge under as you did in the previous step to create a hemmed edge.

Next, with the wrong sides of the fabric facing out, pin the fabric snugly around the cushion, making sure you have an overlap at your envelope opening. Remove the cushion carefully and stitch in place using your pins as a guide.

I wanted my corners to look a little neater, so I did a quick box corner. I took the corners of the cover, and folded them so that the seam lines run at a 45 degree angle to the folded edge. Then I stitched a straight line at a 90 degree angle to the seam, approximately 1″ in from the corner.

Flip it right side out and wiggle the original cushion inside. I have to admit, I didn’t measure a single thing when I made this. I just laid out my fabric, threw the cushion on top and winged it! It can be a little finicky to get the cushion in, but I managed on my own.

We also repainted our upstairs hallway a few weeks ago kind of on a whim. I mean, it’s been on our house to-do list for ages, but we finally sprung into action. It had previously been painted a dark sage green which wasn’t terrible, but for a hallway with no windows, it was very, very dark, and the paint was in rough shape. So, like the rest of our house we painted it white. I finally got Dan to hang up some art for me. I purchased a few prints by artists Jessica Roux and Amy Rose that happen to coordinate just perfectly with a large winter-forest painting my mother in law made. I feel happy every morning when I wake up and walk down the hall.

This house has been a real challenge, between leaks and floods and the other unexpected things that come with owning an old house, but I do love it’s character. I feel really lucky to live here and decorating this old beauty has been a dream come true. It’s a great distraction right now.

Valentine’s Day always sneaks up on me. I always say, “I’m going to do something this Valentine’s Day! A big pattern release, a give away, a sew along…” But it is also the busiest time of year for Made to Order Lingerie and I never seem to have the time…

But, I wanted to do something. After all, today is a day made for pretty lingerie. I like to think of Valentine’s Day as a day of self-care… and that’s kind of how I feel about lingerie at this time in my life. Lingerie that is beautiful and comfortable makes me feel great, whether anyone else knows I’m wearing it or not.

So, I’m having a Valentine’s Day sale. Sewing Patterns and Lingerie are all 15% off, plus get free shipping on Sleep Masks and Hair Accessories! The sale will be running throughout the weekend, so those of you who have a long weekend (Family Day here in Ontario) can take some self-care time to do some sewing or shopping. There is no need to use a coupon code if you are shopping on Etsy, but if you are shopping here, use coupon code LoveYou15 at checkout.

With all that has been happening around me these last few weeks, taking some time for me has been extra important. My dad has finally started to make some improvements and at least no longer has a fever and his sedation is being lowered day by day. He will still have a long way to go, but these are all positive signs.

Self-Care can take so many different forms. I’m a “do-er.” I have a hard time sitting still. This past weekend we decided to paint our stairwell and upstairs hallway, which was long overdue for a fresh coat of paint. Like most of our house, we painted it white to brighten and freshen things up. It’s nice to have a project that isn’t work related to let my mind wander on. I ordered a nice runner and am contemplating artwork and photo arrangements for the walls. It always feels good for me to do something productive like that.

Sewing is also a big form of self-care for me despite the fact that it’s also my job. Creating in general makes me feel good, but sewing is the area where I excel the most. Isabel had a few snow days this week, but luckily Dan was able to take some time off to entertain her. I got ahead of orders again and sewed a few new pieces. It felt good.

Otherwise, I’ve been spending my time hanging out with Isabel and my pups, Marie-Kondoing my house, and playing Stardew Valley. Oh, and shovelling snow. Lots and lots of snow!

I am eagerly anticipating my 20 week ultrasound at the end of the month. I really want to know whether we are having a boy or a girl so I can get the room done. Funny enough, I generally gravitate towards a more simple, neutral design so I’m not sure why it matters so much, but I just want to know.

I’m feeling lots of little kicks, punches and summersaults which is always an amazing and reassuring feeling at this stage. It is crazy how different pregnancies can be. When I was pregnant with Isabel, for the most part I felt great the whole time! I had some pretty bad sciatica but overall felt great. This time around I felt so sick the first three months and seem to have had a resurgence of sickness this week. But, I’m staying active and feel good for the most part, so I am lucky. I took the picture below at 16 weeks, and I’m already feeling quite a bit bigger.

Well, it happened! I’m pregnant and Isabel is a very excited soon-to-be big sister. Baby #2 is due in July, which means I’ll be taking a bit of time off this summer. With Isabel, I was really eager to get back to work, but as last time, I’m going to play my maternity leave by ear. I’m fortunate enough to have that ability.

This pregnancy has been very different than when I was pregnant with Isabel. The first 3 months were very rough and I felt very sick and tired. On top of work being very busy, it was a very trying time… but I’m through the worst of it now and am back to feeling like a regular, albeit achy, human again.

I sometimes I feel apprehensive talking about pregnancy as I know it can be a really triggering subject for anyone who has experienced pregnancy loss or infertility. We lost a baby to a missed miscarriage before Isabel, and I have PCOS which has made it more difficult to get pregnant, but here we are. If you are struggling, I am sorry. I’m always open to lending a listening ear. After my loss, I needed to hide all baby-related news from my social media feed, so I can understand that feeling.

Anyway, that’s my happy news.

Of course, as life goes, a whole bunch of other shit has hit the fan in the meantime. My dad was admitted to the hospital two weeks ago with a severe case of influenza. He has spent the last two weeks sedated and on a ventilator. Today he started breathing on his own again. They suspect he may have COPD in addition to the hell influenza inflicts on a body, but I still want to take this time to urge you to please get a flu shot. Vaccination is something I’m really truly passionate about. It may sound like a weird passion, but I remember hearing my grandma talk about the Spanish Flu epidemic, and measles and the fear of polio… and we are so luck to have these vaccines. Seeing what the flu has done to my dad has really been an eye opener for me. In Canada, it is free and you can even get it from a pharmacist. Isabel was able to get her flu vaccine through nasal mist at our doctors office. No needle required!

Ok, that’s the end of my public service announcement.

I’m not entirely sure if I’ve talked about it here before, but my brother is an addict. He has been for years. He has had some good periods, where he was clean and stable and I’ve felt so incredibly proud of him, but right now is not one of those times. I have been hesitant to bring it up for privacy reasons, but I feel like talking about it is important. I know we are not the only family dealing with this. And if we can talk about it, maybe it will make it easier to get help.

My brother lives with my parents, and although I have gotten to the place in our relationship where I can detach from him with love when he is not well, it’s not as easy for my mom and dad… The hard part about being the sibling of an addict is that you get to sit back and helplessly watch your entire family suffer. Your sibling destroys their own life piece by piece through misguided judgement, and your parents lives crumble as well as they try to pick up the pieces. Isabel misses out on spending more time with her grandparents because “home” is a volatile place when a drug user is around, and she misses out on having a really awesome uncle. It’s a pain that just lingers in the back of your conscience and spreads it’s roots through your entire families life.

Addiction inevitably leads to brushes with the law, of which my brother has had many. He’s working through the court system as we speak. I know this is so hard on my parents. I see how it wears them down physically, emotionally, financially. They are not at the point where they have been able to detach from his problems, and that makes me sad. Sad and frustrated. As insidious as the drugs themselves are, it’s also pretty easy to become addicted to “helping” the addict.

One of the hardest things about living with addiction is the constant fear of the unknown. What bad news will the next phone call bring? You begin to constantly be waiting for the next terrible thing that’s lurking just behind the corner. You are constantly on edge.

I’m hoping that this health scare with my dad will help everyone reevaluate what is important. I’m not sure there is help for my brother at this point, but I do hope my parents can realize that my brothers problems do not have to be their problems. We can support and love my brother when he is ready to be well, but we can’t allow addiction to tear us apart too. If and when he does want help, he will need us to be strong, and as it’s going now, my parents won’t last much longer. I seriously worry that the stress will kill them.

Living in a small town, it’s hard to know where to turn to get help. I’m considering going to Al-anon. It’s taken me a long time but I’ve realized that I can’t help him. I can only try to heal myself.

This has really been weighing on my family. I feel guilty bringing it up, but I also feel like it’s really overshadowed my pregnancy, which should be a joyous time for all of us. I don’t put blame on anyone and am empathetic, but it’s just another example of how addiction can take over the lives of everyone around the addict.

So, I’m going to end this on a happy note, because that is where I want to be. A lot of positive things are happening in my life. I sometimes (ok, often) feel guilty, or like I need to downplay my successes because of the situation with my brother, but I’m done doing that. I’ve worked hard for the good things I have in life. Lingerie sales are booming. In fact, they were up by nearly 200% this holiday season! That means I have been one very busy woman. And a busy lingerie-maker is a happy (and tired) lingerie-maker. I’m also working on a maternity/nursing bra and panty pattern (I’m wearing the undies right now!) and have a few other things up my sleeve. And, I am ridiculously excited to find out whether we will be having a boy or a girl baby for the most frivolous reason… I want to do some baby sewing and get the nursery ready! So, feel free to spam me with your favourite baby sewing projects. I really want to make a few swaddle blankets and a baby nest as well as a snuggly minky blanket.

The Jasmine Bra might have a run for it’s money for the position of “favourite bra pattern.”

The Romy Bra is a step up in complexity from the Jasmine bra. It has a three-piece, lined “cup” and shaped wing. I really love the scooped back.

The instructions walk you through how to line the bra, how to sew it with a scalloped lace neckline or a elastic-trimmed neckline. I’ve even included a bonus tutorial on how to add a strappy neckline! I kind of thought I was tired of the strappy-bra thing, but when I put this one on, I think I changed my mind.

I’m really happy with the finish on this bra. It’s still relatively simple as far as bras go, but I think it has even more versatility than the Jasmine. You know me, I love a pattern that can be sewn lots of ways.

If you’re looking to sew one of these for yourself, check out my step by step video on YouTube!